Christmas is nine days away. That makes some of us ecstatic and some of us extremely sad. It just depends on where we are in our grief walk. I’m going to remind myself to breathe well and deep every time I feel a little anxious. I can’t change the fact that Christmas is coming way too fast. I can’t turn the clock back. I can’t cover my ears to block the ripping sound of day after day yanked from my calendar. But I can do this: call my friends who have also lost loved ones and say “I am hurting. How are you?” I can reach beyond myself and find a soft hand to hold. And so can you.