Visiting Mama

Visiting Mama

Early this morning, just before sunrise, I spent time with Mama. Minnie Lucille Elliott Danley. The woman who loved me most in this whole weird world. The woman who, inexplicably, searched her big purse as if looking for her car keys when the doctor told her even...
2019: What’s Before You

2019: What’s Before You

When I was about 24, I used to attend a church where women were in charge. It was wonderful and undemanding, held on the campus of Spelman College in a little building so nondescript it’s not even worth describing. Reverend Vickie was our buxom, fearless...
Grief Is A Cave

Grief Is A Cave

Because I carry this grief with me like a second skin, it peeks its way through whenever there’s a current event dominating the news. So, of course, with the rescue of those beautiful boys from the cave, I thought that’s it! Grief is just like that!...

Death on my mind

That title makes me sound like I’m Morticia’s sister, right? Remember her, the beautiful, sultry, dark freak-of-a-wife-and-mother from the Adams Family? I loved that show about an ordinary family that just happened to embrace the dark side. As a...

Upon Seeing Chaka Last Night

For a moment, I sat in Constitution Hall, in the gushing river of Ms. Chaka Khan’s ageless voice, and I flowed with her and totally forgot all my problems. Then suddenly I thought of Toya and how much she would’ve loved seeing Chaka with me. And for just a...